Category: Understanding Yourself
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Nervous System Regulation and the Spiritual Path: What ‘Raising Vibration’ Really Means
In this piece, I explore how nervous system regulation and parts work are not about numbing or transcending, but about cultivating enough coherence to hold the full spiral of who we are. Rooted in Polyvagal Theory, Internal Family Systems, and…
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We Don’t Have to Forgive to Heal: Honoring the Nervous System’s Call for Justice
Forgiveness is often seen as essential for healing, but this perspective may be misleading. Premature forgiveness can deepen internal divides between hurt and pressure to move on. True healing involves recognizing boundaries and prioritizing protection over obligation. It’s about integrating…
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Why You Feel Numb and Disconnected: Understanding the Mind-Body Split
Feeling numb, disconnected, or like you’re just going through the motions rather than truly living is more common than many realize. Some people seek out extreme experiences—adrenaline-fueled adventures, intense emotions, or even self-destructive behaviors—in an attempt to feel something. Others…
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The Real Reason You Can’t Stop Scrolling: Unpacking the Deeper Needs Behind Digital Escapism
This content explores our self-criticisms regarding habits like binge-watching and mindless scrolling. It encourages curiosity over judgment, suggesting that habits signal deeper needs. Instead of drastic changes, small daily choices can foster genuine rest and connection. By listening to these…
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The Anatomy of Control: Understanding Its Roots and Letting Go for Personal Growth
The article explores the complex nature of control, depicting it as a response to chaos and fear. Initially protective, control can restrict emotional expression and personal growth, manifesting through perfectionism and rigidity. Understanding its roots helps individuals navigate vulnerability and…
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Self-Sabotage Isn’t Real: How to Reframe Your Patterns for Lasting Change
The concept of self-sabotage often misrepresents behaviors as intentional failures rather than protective responses to unmet needs and trauma. Reframing this perspective encourages self-compassion and curiosity, emphasizing that these behaviors communicate deeper issues. Understanding this can foster healing, growth, and…
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Understanding Your Inner Parts: Why Relationships Bring Out the Best (and Worst) in Us
Relationships serve as powerful catalysts for self-discovery, revealing hidden aspects of our identities. Through concepts like Polyvagal Theory and Attachment Theory, we understand how our nervous systems and early experiences shape our relational dynamics. Engaging with our inner parts fosters…
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